Love? on Valentine's day..................... g f xavier

“Will you love me in December as you do in May,
Will you love me in the good old fashioned way?
When my hair has all turned gray,
Will you kiss me then and say,
That you love me in December as you do in May?“ James J. Walker.

This may be a very important day in everyone’s life (Valentine’s Day). The search for love and to live for love and the demands of love are the ones that make people happy and sad. “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread” Mother Teresa. All are in search of love. And then the question arises, what is love? It is very complicated. The explanation or definition of love depends upon each person. “Without love, what are we worth?  Eighty-nine cents!  Eighty-nine cents worth of chemicals walking around lonely” Laurence Marks.

I believe love is a healing or curing material for most of the sicknesses. Sicknesses begin basically from mind and if one’s mind and heart is filled with satisfactory love relationships, it helps the whole person. May be holistically is love the main remedy for all sickness. But this love which fills ones heart depends on each ones concept of love. “Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence” Eric Fromm. The concept of love is formed by birth and the initial child development ages or pre-school ages. The parents have a major role in the formation of concept of love in each one. Some live for love, some search after only sex in love, some want only a little cuddling, some enjoy living together, some hate living with another, some find fulfillment in partners, some seek love among same gender, some hate making love, some cant love at all, etc… “Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence” David Byrne. Can love and sex be seen differently? Making love is a need of age. People never made love lack a major part of their state of normalcy.  "Being with someone in bed gives trust, fulfillment, satisfaction, self-confidence, self-acceptance, happiness, self-belief, etc… “Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old” John Ciardiso.  I believe love cannot be defined and the definition suitable for each one can be formed in each one’s mind depending of his or her personality.

(My spiritual outlook) I believe god is love and there is no god without love. Some say God is a judge who judges each one’s life according to his or her activities. But he is not a judge based on our thinking. He doesn’t judge on the basis of testimonies and witnesses. It is not a civil court and the justice is not based on the investigations. His justice is justice based on love. He doesn’t see one as a culprit and accuse anyone or destroy anyone. He is keeping his hands open and welcomes all to be good. Love is just including each and every one. No one will be excluded on the basis of his deeds.

But I don’t believe the love of God without love of human beings. "The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration”. Pearl S. Buck. God’s love is witnessed in the love and relationship of each other. So there is no love life without God. If god is love, let all be given a chance to love. And it is natural to love someone of other sex and if anyone is in love or feels to love someone of same sex because of the development of his or her personality, is also natural to the person. So all forms of love and all demands of love from each and every one needs to be respected as each and every one has the freedom to live on this earth and to find the fulfillment of love in their life. Everyone’s dreams need to be fulfilled and one needs to facilitate others in their fulfillment of their search of love. “Take away love and our earth is a tomb” Robert Browning.

“Love is a symbol of eternity.  It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end” Author Unknown. And what is there greater in one’s life other than to know that ‘I am being loved’. To love and to be in love is like being in ‘heaven’. It is the most important form of experiencing God or just living weightless. It is feeling of flying in the air like birds. “There is no surprise more magical than the surprise of being loved.  It is God's finger on man's shoulder” Charles Morgan.

“Do I love you because you're beautiful,
Or are you beautiful because I love you?” Richard Rodgers and Oscar Hammerstein II, Cinderella.